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Is is better to have loved and lost or to have never loved at all?
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jstarr
Mar 02, 2012
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Loved and lost


ascendingparadigm
Apr 10, 2012
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The upside of love overpowers the downside of its loss.

 
mrright
Mar 06, 2012
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As an atheist, I agree with Ayaan Hirsi Ali when she said "The only position that leaves me with no cognitive dissonance is atheism. It is not a creed. Death is certain, replacing both the siren-song of Paradise and the dread of Hell. Life on this earth, with all its mystery and beauty and pain, is then to be lived far more intensely: we stumble and get up, we are sad, confident, insecure, feel loneliness and joy and love. There is nothing more; but I want nothing more."

 
Emma Jade Carter
Mar 12, 2012
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It depends on the person; some people are able to eventually move on from their past pain, learn from it and strive to achieve better. Others, on the other hand, find it difficult to do so. The latter type of people would struggle to live with losing a loved one for the rest of their lives, and be unable to focus on their positive memories. For this kind of person, it may be better to have never loved at all?
However, for what is perhaps the majority, we can learn from and move on from losing another, and remember with happiness the memories of loving them, and so in this case surely it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? This, I feel, applies to the majority.

 
Katherine Hoffman
Aug 17, 2012
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Rebuttal to: Gabriel Bakemono Finger Show

its selfish to wish someone wouldn't die because its the circle of life, and everyone has their time.

 
Mike SungJi Baik
Oct 11, 2012
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Rebuttal to: Quincy Ratcliff Show

Love is portrayed to people in different images. Some can be really dark and dreary, whilst some are eye blinding. Is it better to have loved or never to have loved at all? When you come out of a serious relationship, you might feel "it". I can't really specify what this "it" feeling is exactly. It may feel like a day won't go by any faster. You might feel a lump in your chest that just seems to get heavier and heavier as time progresses. You look at your cell phone every chance you get just hoping.. To some extremes, your heart literally might hurt so much you wish it would just stop, literally. Would I wish the pain I felt after the farewells would have never coexisted? To every start there must be an end. With each relationship, you learn and mature. For me, at least, even though I lost the one I held right next to my heart, Like ascendingparadigm said the joyful memories spent with them is so overpowering that even during my "suffering" thinking of those moments would bring a smile.

To forget love, you must find love.

 
Sevie Sagucio
Dec 30, 2012
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Loved and lost because it is like Tried but failed. It's better to try than not to try at all. :)

 
Trey Songz
Mar 23, 2013
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It is better to have loved and lost. It hurts less in the short run while we are in the state of love. It may hurt more in the long run after things end or maybe not. Sometimes it is best to take these chances instead saying to yourself "what if?" in the next years, but at least it happened and you both mutually share memories.

 
Liverose Odarve
Sep 16, 2013
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Well, since all of us are not exempted to hurt aches.. Even if you will say that your the most lucky person in this world who are currently experiencing love right now, time will always come that you would probably experience to lost in spite of all the effort you just did for your happiness. Hurt aches are part of life. It is one of the most common way of traversing a person into something better. Though, it is not required but that is how the reality works. I, myself just experienced being loved and lost yet I never wanted to be in it because of the melancholy it caused in me, still I adored these experiences due to the fact that it made me become the better person as I can be. We really can't help it that at some point of our life, sadness will always be there and it is up to us of how to deal with it, either think of it as a lesson or other way around. Let's just remember that to lost someone is just a reminder that these people come in our lives to teach us and to help us find our own self and our true happiness. :) Let's live life, laugh life and love life. :) Godspeed everyone.

 
Amina Djuki?
Dec 23, 2014
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There may be no greater pain in the world than loss. That being said, love tends to be the greatest feeling, if/when achieved. Finding love and continuing on what seems like an everlasting journey with your significant other is inexplainable and will leave you with a lifetime of memories. Our lives have expiration dates unfortunately, but do you want to spend the time that you have left alone just because of the fear that surrounds you when you imagine loss? I don't want to live my life thinking "what if"… Losing someone is terrifying, but living alone without love and compassion in my life seems worse. Everyone is going to die, so why not live your life to the fullest, love with all of your heart! Loss happens, and when it does, you have to be strong and smile when thinking back on all of the memories you have with loved ones, these will be with you forever. "Loving might be a mistake, but its worth making."

 
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I don't know if it's just because I've recently lost, but i wish none of it had ever happened.... but so much would never have happened because of it all... i just wish something else had happened than losing.... i loved. and i lost. and when i fell, it was hard. and it sucked. i tried to get back up, and i got knocked back down. twice. and now every romantic vision and idea i've ever had is now in question. how the hell can something that's supposed to be beautiful (I know it, i've felt it) hurt so damn bad? all love's done for me is left me lost, confused, conflicted, and just too sad too even distract myself from it. all i can do is lay there listening to music until it's time to sleep. So, for the time being at least, i'm siding with it's better to have never know something few ever get to keep. Fuck it forever. And not f**k it forever. I don't want it, but i need it, and this is what it does to you. You can't live without it, but it's so hard....... but now it's back to laying there until i fall asleep....

 
Quincy Ratcliff
Sep 03, 2012
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There would be no suffering because of the absence of the love you once shared with another because if there was no love to begin with, you would never know what the suffering felt like int he first place. Where there is happiness, it always leads to suffering. The solution? Never be happy and you'll never be sad.

 


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