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Is emotional cheating actually cheating
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Dylan Micheal Harness
Jul 21, 2011
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Having an emotional bond with someone is not cheating


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Rebuttal to: littleminx Show

But how can you control who you fall in love with? It's only cheating if you break the rules of contact. Outward love doesn't matter as long as it doesn't become physical. What if the person fell in love with a horse while in another relationship? Surely that would be ok. No?

 
baducker
Jul 22, 2011
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It depends how you defy 'emotional bond'. Emotions cannot be controlled (as everyone knows) however acting on these emotions is cheating

 
yoli
Jul 22, 2011
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In my opinion, emotional cheating is cheating because before you coose to break a commitment you are faced with choices.
Almost like a test, or temptation.
If your thoughts, and emotions are creating desires that are considered cheating, and you are unaware of those thoughts, and act on them, than you have forgotton, or ignored your commitment, because you have acted on your desire. You may also become obsessive, and find it hard to get rid of certain emotions. If you cannot be open and honest with your partner, than you are obviously hiding something that would be considered harmful to your relationship. I am not saying that it is wrong to love other people, every person has relationships with different people. What I am really trying to say, is it is important to have healthy relationships, otherwise you may experience unwanted suffering that may be considered unnessecary. It may also be considered necessary suffering in order for us to break karma, and learn from our mistakes.


If you become aware that you have these desires, than I believe you are more likely to act out of love, and forgive yourself, and stop yourself, before you cheat. If you are not honest with yourself, than you are denying the truth. If you try to control these emotions, than you may lose control. You will mistake yourself for being those emotions. If you bring awareness to your emotions, thoughts, or feelings, than you will see that you have a choice, and it is in your best interest, to do what is best for yourself, and everybody.

If you don't choose to act on what is best for yourself and everyone else involved, than you may hurt someone emotionally, and if you do than you have created karma for yourself, and you have hurt yourself. So if you do not learn from the situation, and act out of love, It may be repeated, or someone may cheat on you, or in my belief God lays many opportunities to accept, and learn from our "mistakes".

Let me ask anyone out there have you been tempted by lust? I say lust because, if you hurt yourself in your decisions, than how are you acting out of love. Really you are cheating yourself, by not seeing what it is that you truly desire.



 
andreivey
Jul 25, 2011
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The there is no such thing as emotional cheating if you're in a serious commited relationship. One should look at it more like an affair or infidelity because instead of sexually satifying your urges for that person you are just becoming emotionallly bonded with that person. Only when sex involved it is called cheating. Although it is still being unfaithful to your lover.

 
juvenile
Jul 28, 2011
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Trust is something that can be build only if there is an emotional bonding b/w 2 people. thus,it entirely depends on personal perspective.

 
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Having an emotional bond with someone is cheating


henryw
Jul 21, 2011
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Despite the absence of a physical connection to another individual, the toll upon the one who has been cheated on can be equally if not more scarring and devastating than a physical instance of cheating.

 
littleminx
Jul 22, 2011
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DEFINITION OF CHEATING: 1. To act dishonestly; practice fraud. 2. To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards. 3. Informal To be sexually unfaithful: cheat on a spouse.

Unless it's sexual it's not technically considered cheating. If one seeks someone out and bonds with them purposely while still in a relationship it can be hurtfull. Sure they didn't have sex with another, but fell in love with them instead, while they were in a relationsip with you! In my opinion its devastating to the person your doing this to. By technical standards its not cheating...to me it is. :-/

 
melody
Jul 23, 2011
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Sometimes you just get an emotional connection with somebody. It's not cheating. Total honesty is a hard thing and sometimes you get things from somebody else you just don't get at home. Getting caught in a lie is the thing that hurts everybody. HaHa its like the lies of omission debate. Not a lie but not honest.

 
littleminx
Jul 24, 2011
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Rebuttal to: Dylan Micheal Harness Show

I was trying to convey the idea that someone intentionally bonded with someone else while still in a relationship and in doing so started falling in love with them. I agree that you can't controll some things but if you like someone and you are in a relationship with another...why go the distance and get involved -emotionally - when you should just break off current relationsh*t, that way you dont hurt the other.

I dont know....hard to explain. I guess, personally if my significant other started seeing another woman (not sexually) and connecting with her, talking, etc etc....I would be hurt because obviously he likes her and if it werent for me he would make a move! I wouldnt want to be with somone if we werent connecting...because there are other intimate parts to a relationship other then sex!

 
agentawesome
Jul 26, 2011
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Rebuttal to: Dylan Micheal Harness Show

So the ultimate act of love is sex? Of course not. If you love someone more than your partner, it is already cheating. While sex is usually part of the 'cheating' bargain, it is mainly not about that. It is mainly about giving yourself entirely to someone who you are not committed to. And if you truly love that other person, then you are emotionally attached. You are, emotionally speaking, cheating.

 
CaraMum
Jul 27, 2011
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I think so and think that would hurt more as sex has no feeling behind it but emtional goes a lot deeper.

 
bevers
Jul 30, 2011
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I think that temptation from another person arises in most relationships, you may think you have feelings for another person but actually when you imagine yourself with them you realise you wouldn't want to be with them. I think this is quite common in young people who are in long term relationships because you're always meeting new people in new jobs, through higher education etc..
I think the strong ones overcome this temptation and I think it's normal to face temptation in a relationship, however if the emotional bond goes past a certain boundary and you start thinking about this person more than your actual partner or when you and your partner are being intimate together you think about this person then that's cheating. Imagine if your partner was the one having feelings for someone else? You'd feel awful.
Honestly, if you have strong feelings for someone else, you're not in love with your partner.

 


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