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Misconceptions about romance and love
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Jan 27, 2011
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There is only one "true love" for everyone


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There are many different people that an individual could fall in love with and live a happy life wit


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Jan 27, 2011
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Relationships are a touchy subject. Hollywood movies influence the way people view their own romantic relationships and cause many misconceptions. I have heard countless people state the idea that "there is only one person meant for them". As a quick summary, I am trashing that idea. The fact is, there are so many people on the face of the earth, and so many people that have a very similar--if not exactly the same--attachment style as the person that is supposedly "meant to be" that any number of other people could fill their shoes. First off, let me clarify that this debate isn't about polygamy. I am not addressing polygamy at all because my entire argument is on the premise of being in a relationship with one person at a time. Simply stated, I am saying that no matter how deeply a couple is in love, they could, over time, fall equally in love with someone else. Much more can be said on this subject, so I will wait until I have responses to elaborate.

 
teachme
Jan 30, 2011
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First of all...the term 'soulmate' means many different things to many different people. In other words...how do we define 'soulmate' to begin with? If we believe in Oneness, and that we are all ultimately connected...we could say, for example, that we are all soulmates to each other...that we all came from the same place or 'soul.'

Secondly, if finding our 'soulmate' means finding that one true love...who's to say that finding them would be the best thing for us? Don't we often learn much needed lessons from all of our relationships? Some people believe in reincarnation. If everyone was to find the 'ultimate' person for them in this lifetime...where would we go from here? Would we stop growing, on the 'soul level'? How do we know they are even on the planet...could they have died? Will we have a different soulmate the next time around, or the same ole'?

I just think people can spend their whole life looking for some imagined ideal mate, and miss out on important opportunities to share in meaningful relationships with others. I'm not saying we should settle, but we benefit greatly when we embrace these opportunities before us. Gratitude is really key in life. Happiness comes to us when we are grateful for what we have. :)

 
sexto
Jan 27, 2011
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I'm reminded of this song by tim minchin
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IeZMIgheZro

I agree.
Makes sense evolutionarily speaking, one true love doesn't seem to make sense in any way.

 
iamironman
Feb 03, 2011
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How could there only be one? When widowers, divorcees, and separated couples still find other loves, especially. Say a woman's been married to a man for 49 years, happily, and she's devestated when he dies; they're truely in love; they finished each other's sentences, felt each other's heartbeats, were a true solace, etc... but then, three years after she dies, she finds another, and he makes her feel better, and he does, in some way compare. She falls in love again. Possible scenario. But, I like to think sometimes that we don't fall in love with people anyway, simply the ideas of select ones.

 


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