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Battle of the sexes: who have more painful experiences in life men or women ???
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goodevil
May 27, 2010
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goodevil
May 27, 2010
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I have to disagree here, it is true that women show their emotions in an open sincere way, but this doesn’t mean that men don’t have emotions, it’s just a part of being a man is to “be a man” about it, and I’ve seen fathers devastated by the death of a child, not on the same way as women do, but some get addicted to alcohol, some repress an anger against society just to unleash it later somehow, I’m sorry but the fact that a man doesn’t shed tears like women do doesn’t necessary men he doesn’t feel the pain.

 
goodevil
May 27, 2010
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When I started this debate, I was pretty sure that someone will play the “giving birth experience”, but in order to come up to a reasonable result in this debate, some cases should be excluded because it’s impossible to compare the painful experiences at that level to determine the answer and that is due to the gender, we can never say that giving birth is the worst painful experience for the simple reason that men can’t live this experience, as well women don’t when it comes to being kicked in the crunch or closing the zipper over some stuff (sorry guys I know that just talking about the zipper thing brings back bad memories) , so , so far we can not prove which ‘related to gender’ painful experience is the worst because no one lived both kinds (according to gender always) to tell us which is the worst. And that eliminates giving birth, periodic issues for women and related crunch accidents for men. As for the rest of experiences (physical or emotional) well I’ll let you prove your point of view first.

 
goodevil
May 27, 2010
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Rebuttal to: lenodarkshine Show

“Men die early” a scientific fact with no questioning, but doesn’t mean that it’s the most painful experience, not even for women, after losing a loved one (parents, children, partner …) women get the pain out naturally because they are women, they get the pain out by expressing how they feel and that is mostly by tearing, while men even though they seem strong at hard times, they keep deep scars into their heart and I’ll give you a strong example, child abusing happens to both gender (fact) but have you ever heard about a female serial killer or manic criminal who became like that as a result of being abused as a child??? How about men??? Now what kind of a deep impact, painful experiences have in a man’s life?

 
wwwdontpushmenet
May 27, 2010
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i Think it depends on the PERSON not the gender... and i do think that when a child dies the men fall harder... just because the child wasnt in the man but in the womb of a women doesnt make up for the connection! men "CANT" fall hard on topics such as losing a child or somethin like that cause he sposed to "be there" for the woman! its his duty to be strong but what hes feeling deep down inside is more unbearable and unthinkable than a woman can go... women cry and deal with the pain right away men keep the pain inside...so everytime something hurts him it just builds and builds and builds... they dont/cant "get rid" of the pain as well as women seem to be able to.. cuz its in their upbringing to cope correctly with situations like that! whereas men carry it for the rest of their lives.... so i think Men wins this debate................. (FYI Im A Woman :)

 
goodevil
May 28, 2010
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Thank you wwwdontpushmenet for proving your point of view, I’m not sure if you’re married or not, but the majority of married women know what I’m talking about here, pain is not just the event that caused it, but it’s the scare that the event leaves that matters, it is true that, in a very personal scale, dealing with it is not a matter of gender but it’s a matter of personality.

However, generally, women tend to get it out, while men, as tough as they might seem, they keep it inside, and it doesn’t need a shrink to explain to you about that. For god’s sake a man can crack someday and make a huge scene just because someone took his pen at work, do you have any idea how much men build inside of them, pain for women became sadness, tears ; for men anger.

just take for example a couple that lost their son at war, the mom will mourn her kid, but the dad will at least start to carve some wood “????”


 
wwwdontpushmenet
May 28, 2010
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i am not married but i have two brothers and a father that died a couple years back and a cousin who also died a couple years back so im speaking from expirience..... my brothers will never admit the pain in them when they think of my dad dieing but you can see it in their eyes and their actions... and my uncle father of my cousin that died became an alcholic after his son died, and to this day still blames himself for something that he had no control over.... and my aunt,,, yes she mourns his death but i can see more pain in my uncles eyes then i have seen in my life time.... thats where i base my opinion off of...

 
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larryt700
May 27, 2010
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Great arguments but also look at history. Women are typically oppressed by many cultures, religions and societies. In some cultures in the Middle East, if a woman defames her husband's name, then she could be stoned or murdered by her husband and it be considered justified. In this country even, women were allowed to vote after freed slaves. To prove this look at the 5th amendment where people are allowed to vote regardless of race. Sex happens to not be mentioned at all....

 
larryt700
May 27, 2010
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By far and without a doubt. Who pays for the gang wars, military wars and crime are always the mothers who lose their children. The men seem to feel bad because they let their wives down by not protecting their children. A few times when I make death notifications, the men seem to turn to their wives, which seems to me to gage how to react to the information.

 
larryt700
May 27, 2010
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Rebuttal to: goodevil Show

If I include giving birth, then where does that leave your argument?

 
lenodarkshine
May 27, 2010
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Both sexes have painful experiences, and you can't always hone it down to a singular sex: a child is disowned by its parents for not livig to their standards - sex is not the issue, belief is.

That having been said, if you pair it back to things purely related to sex there are 2 things that would probably swing it in womens favour (though favour is probably the wrong word given the topic)

1. Child birth. You can't seriously argue that men experience anything quite as emotionally and physically disturbing that is classed as "natural" as giving birth?
2. Statistically, women outlive men. I can't imagine what it must be like to have a life partner that dies, and how that is coped with. Yeh, sure its a bummer that us men tend to die earlier, but I'd rather have that than be the woman spending the next ten years alone reminiscing about times gone by.

Women have it.

 
lenodarkshine
May 27, 2010
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Rebuttal to: goodevil Show

Well, you said it yourself - catching your cock in your zip is an accident, giving birth keeps humanity going- cant really see how thats an accurate comparison.

 
unlabled00
May 28, 2010
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I'm with larry on this one. Overall, womens' role throughout history has been one of oppression. Considered second class citizens by a large number of cultures, treated like objects, and forced to follow extremely oppressive husbands and fathers.

Also... during ancient wars when villages were raped and plundered, it sure as hell wouldn't be the men that got raped.


 
larryt700
May 29, 2010
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I meant to say 15th Amendment... Sorry, I am not pleading the 5th lol...

 


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