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Teen Love vs. Lust
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brittw
Aug 24, 2009
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Teens can fall in love


thevenerablerob
Aug 24, 2009
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It is quite possible for a teen to fall in love, but, as you said, for a time. Love should be taken seriously. the result should be that of a lifelong commitment. It is not bad that the teen falls in love so much as that both/either blow a great deal of time, energy and money in the other and then break up. Bam, shattered feelings, devastation whatever else. Murder, even, as exemplified by the girl whom had her boyfriend kill another out of jealousy.

A teen should not seriously date until s/he is ready to actually commit to the other person, marry and maybe raise a family. This is no small commitment. You direction and attention changes from yourself to your spouse, and then to a family.

A teenager is not often ready to give up that freedom, which is often a case in abortions. "Oh, I didn't know!" Well learn.

 
paradox19
Aug 25, 2009
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Love is a personal concept. Love cannot be confirmed nor denied by any outside measures. So if a teen thinks and believes they are in love then they are in love. If you want to address the chemical reaction in the brain when it comes to "love", studies have shown that teenagers actually have a higher chemical reaction then adults do pertaining to it.

 
brittw
Aug 24, 2009
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Love is nothing more then a chemical reaction in the brain. So who is to say that teens can't fall in love? Atleast for a period of time. Look at adults. Some of them fall in love, get married, and then divorce. It is the same thing with teens only slightly different. Love comes a while after teens are together.
I can agree with an argue that says teens are only interested in each other for a while and then the attraction decreases into nothing. The few that do stay together after that initial reaction fades. Who is to say that it isn't love? Who is to say that teens are too young to feel that way?

 
yoli
Aug 24, 2009
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Hmmm this subject touches me deeply.
I fell in love as a teen, and am greatfully still with my love. I will admit that after awhile you feel like that love is slipping right past you. But that is just an illusion. Where as before you were so into that person, and then you start to think that you have learned almost everything about that person, but really there is so much to learn, and then you start to wonder if the person you thought you loved, is really the one you want to spend your whole life with. Spirituality is one thing that has brought me even closer to my love right now. I am just explaining what i have went through, try and see if you find any truth in what i say.

 
yoli
Aug 24, 2009
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I will also add that it is hard for a teenager to learn what love is all about, especially if you diddn't have both parents there who truly loved eachother and expressed that love to those around them. So always set good examples for those to learn around you.

 
yoli
Aug 24, 2009
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one more thing learn to love yourself before you fall in love.

 
yoli
Aug 24, 2009
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I dont think it matters if love is a chemical reaction in the brain, why must we try to define and understand love.The experience of love is much more important than trying to define love.

 
deltahunter
Aug 27, 2009
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I think that even though most teen "love" tends to be referred by that teen as lust later on, love is relative to the time. So although you may have found something deeper and more passionate later on, nothing can change the way you felt then. Since we can't properly define love, who's to say that what happily married couples feel isn't as advanced as love? Teens have the same love as anyone else, older people are just more mature and developed, so they see it differently and go about love differently.

 
frankiej4189
Aug 27, 2009
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"Love is nothing more then a chemical reaction in the brain"

Well i guess that settles that then.

 
jacksont
Aug 27, 2009
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Although most people might not agree and maybe I also dont I am not sure as I have not felt anything more:

As now a 14 year old boy, who has always done quite well with the ladies in my schools, if I was to recap on all of them, one out of all would always stand out compared to all of the other ones. About 1 year ago, maybe a bit more, when I was only just 13, hell I knew that was love, maybe it wasn't love in some of its deeper forms, but I know I was feeling something more than just "like" with this girl, we would be with other people and she would be the only person I would notice or care about, I would do anything just to see this girl smile, laugh, flip her hair, anything we would laugh at anything the other person said until we were crying and horse, we would see/talk each other every second we could, and every one of those seconds, we couldn't do anything but smile, we would talk all day at school, Video Chat all night, text at dinner, and text on the way to school, and nothing would have made me happier than to just hug her whenever I could. So am I sure that this feeling I felt with this girl was love? No, but I am sure that it was something that I will always remember, and will forever compare, my future, more serious relationships too

 
teachme
Aug 28, 2009
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VR...no one knows how a relationship will end up, when you are in it...and you can't make a serious commitment before getting to know someone well. You get to know someone well through dating.

Your comment: "Love should be taken seriously. the result should be that of a lifelong commitment." Is waaayyyy over the top for teenagers. I had one of the greatest love relationships of my life with my high school sweetheart. We were totally committed...but, I wasn't ready and we were both too young to make a lifetime commitment to each other.

Regardless of age...dating is great for the experience of getting to know someone intimately...and through that person, you come to know and love yourself more intimately, too. If you choose to spend the rest of your life with that person...great. If you choose to move on...so be it! Love is many things...and one of those things is freedom.

 
teachme
Aug 29, 2009
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Nice...thanks for sharing...and I know exactly what you were experiencing, as I experienced it for three years in HS. Remember it, you will...for a lifetime. :)

 
teachme
Sep 01, 2009
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Excellent idea, TBH...I had two part-time jobs, as I paved my way through several degree programs. I never seemed to have the time or energy for a relationship. I always knew that a relationship would inevitably cause my grades to slip, and possibly even divert my attention away from my goals and the path I was on. I think you are wise to be "singleminded" in purpose, as it were, in regards to your studies.

 
teachme
Sep 04, 2009
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Convince...because I don't doubt this is true, when it comes to what happens chemically...but, certainly, love is more than a chemical reaction. Teens are not fully developed mentally, for example...and may not be able to handle the full responsibilities of love...should they become pregnant, etc...then those "chemical" feelings may change.

 
Fisher Barker
May 01, 2013
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Very possible, Most teens want a boyfriend/girlfriends, so then they ask each other out and once they hang out, ALOT they could fall in love :)

 
Fisher Barker
May 01, 2013
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Very possible, Most teens want a boyfriend/girlfriends, so then they ask each other out and once they hang out, ALOT they could fall in love :)

 
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Teens can't fall in love it is just lust




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