I'm all for gay rights, don't get me wrong. One of my closest friends is gay and in a committed and happy relationship. I'm also 100% for allowing gays to adopt children. However, I also believe it is the birth parent[s]' right to choose, or at least, have a say in sending their child to where they see fit.

Yes, it's true that the parents ARE terminating their rights to the child, but that does not mean they cannot have any type of say. A perent usually gives up a child because he/she thinks the child will have a better life somewhere else or he/she cannot provide for the child. That doesn't mean the parent doesn't have any personal moral beliefs. A parent has every right to request his/her child be placed in a straight family or have no preference. The same goes for religious values. A parent has every right to request his or her child be placed in a Muslim home instead of a Christian home, for example.

Granted, I don't believe the birth parents of the child should have complete reign over what type of environment the child gets placed into, however i do believe that the parent(s) should have the right to suggest where their child gets placed.

I say yes, only because I believe the ideal adoption to include the biological parent (or parents) in the decision making process.

Since bio parent is the parent of the child, she/he has the rights inherent to parents (since the child is still hers/his). So it only makes sense that such a parent could put such provisions in for the adoption of their child. They are still making parenting decisions about what they deem best for their child.

Incidentally, parenting IS restricted by sexual orientation (biologically speaking).

parents do NOT give up the right to make decisions about their children when giving a child to an adoption agency. If that were the case, the adoption agency could do whatever they damn well please with the child. The parents give the child to an adoption agency with an agreement that the agency will fulfill the wishes of the parent and child to find a proper home for the child. If there are any specifications of the home, the parents have the right to declare them BEFORE giving the child up. BEFORE they 'lose their right over the child'. once the agency agrees, the parents give the child to the agency with the understanding that the wishes will be fulfilled.

It is not discrimination to select what type of life your child will be having. obviously if the parents aren't well off enough to support the child, they would want to give the child to someone that can. is that wealth discrimination? No.

frankly, the type of life the child will have with gay/non gay parents greatly differs. Therefore it is not just on the basis of the parents sexual orientation that this decision is being made, it is being made based on two different lives the child could have. if the lives were the same and its just a matter of the parents sexual orientation, there COULD be an argument for discrimination. however in this case, it is not JUST because the parents are gay, there are many other factors that come into this decision.

God forbid that I would ever put my child up for adoption. I would say no they do not have a choice but a gay/lesbian enviornment is never the best envirnment for a child.

Raising your child how you want them to isnt discrimition, and so this isnt either. Gay is a way how ppl act, like i wouldnt send a kid to a harsh acting person. Its who they are, so screw the other side i think. I dont mind gays, but think we should still have choice.

Is it discrimition when somebody wants child of their own race? or another race? Yeah it is, i think discrimition is okay personally, and some safe extent, im no nazi lol

The birth parent(s) may be giving up their parental rights, but I can tell you that I have a friend who gave her daughter up for adoption, and she chose the parents.

Part of the agreement was that they had to be willing to allow letter writing, exchanges of gifts, and occasional visitations between her (the biological mother) and her (biological) daughter. They willingly agreed, knowing that the connection between them could only benefit the child.

Through the years, the daughter has been able to correspond when she feels the need, and many questions about the reasons for her adoption, etc, have been answered and dealt with.

My friend's relationship with her daughter's parents is strong and supportive. She has not visited often, but was there for her high school graduation, and was able to take her daughter on a trip to Ireland, as a graduation gift.

My friend and her biological daughter have a great friendship, and the way the adoption was handled has been most beneficial for all parties involved...a happy and healthy alternative.

There is no reason why the biological parent(s) should not have a legal right to be involved with the decision making during the adoption of their child. These are inherent rights, that should not be automatically surrendered, at the time of adoption. However, if they choose to abandon those rights...so be it.

Adopted children generally suffer from rejection by
their peers and more importantly, by themselves.
Adopting parents almost always face some sort of
rejection from their adopted children. A child with two
homosexual parents would not only be unable to grow up
with their biological family, but also unable to grow
up with a traditional family structure. Obviously one
cannot dismiss the idea that nothing can prove that gay
parents would be less caring towards their adopted
children, but comes as a matter of preference. Hypothetically, if you
were a child in an orphanage and a homosexual couple
and a heterosexual couple were placed before you, who
would you choose? (assuming of course, that you are of
the necessary mental maturity level to grasp the idea
of family) Most children at the time of adoption are too young to choose a suitable family for themselves and so should be responsibly assisted either by the agency or their biological parents. Taking away a biological parent's right to be a part of the process is unfair as there are many more reasons the child may have been put up for adoption aside from plain irresponsibility.